Living holy lives for Jesus requires diligence in every area of life, particularly when it comes to relationships.
Again, as Paul said to the Thessalonians, we should not act like those who do not know God. For the Christian, if the only thing that changes when you get married is that you start having sex, something is wrong with the picture. Should we really be giving ourselves away emotionally, romantically, and sexually to someone who is not our husband or wife?I'll start by putting my position right on the line: kissing is OK.We need to address the whole spectrum ("just kissing" included). First, the fact that "romantically oriented" is in italics above is important.Before continuing with this article, please review the preamble included at the beginning of Scott's first article in this series, "Biblical Dating: How It's Different From Modern Dating." * * * PART 4: Navigating the Early Stages of a Relationship » Quite a few Boundless readers asked questions or made comments about my statement in "Biblical Dating: How It's Different From Modern Dating" that "biblical dating assumes outside of marriage that Scripture explicitly prohibits?How can you say definitively that other things are wrong? Shouldn't our physical relationship "progress" as other aspects of our relationship deepen? I understand most physical stuff is wrong, but what about All good questions.NOTE: Dean Inserra will be one of the speakers at the ERLC National Conference: “The Gospel, Homosexuality, and the Future of Marriage.” The conference is designed to equip Christians to apply the gospel on these issues with convictional kindness in their communities, their families and their churches.
This event will be held at the iconic Opryland Hotel on October 27-29, 2014. If there is an area of life where there isn’t enough distinction between Christians and non-Christians, I believe it is in the aspects of the relational category we call “exclusive dating.” By dating, I don’t mean the causal night out where you get to know someone of the opposite sex, but the exclusive serious relationships that individuals usually engage in with several different people in their lives before they get married.
The Bible doesn’t acknowledge this category that has become a central part of our society.
Boyfriends and girlfriends and being “committed” to someone who is not your spouse are all foreign to God’s design. Dating is so much a part of our culture and a modern-day prerequisite for engagement that we must learn how to approach this as Christians.
If there is an area of weakness that is compromising your purity, be honest with yourself and set up safeguards to protect your relationship. Good relationships are built on constant positive communication.
To walk in purity, you will need to continually assess your progress and ask one another how you can help maintain holiness. If your boyfriend says he can’t come to your apartment anymore because it’s too tempting to compromise, celebrate the fact that he wants to walk in purity!
With respect to pre-marital, romantically oriented kissing, we're clearly talking about an area about which reasonable believers can (and do) disagree.